Comparison...The Joy Killer

Comparison the joy killer!


I don't know about the rest of you but when I walk into a room comparison is a giant joy killer!! It is one of the first things that happens. I size up the crowd, I see who I'm taller than, dressed better than, skinnier than, the list goes on and on! What an energy zapper! 

I don't think I'm alone in this ridiculous battle, a lot of women that I talk to struggle {and struggle hard} with this! It's usually not in a "check me out I'm better than you" kind of comparison, it's more of an I feel less than you and I don't measure up kind of way. And the guilt that follows from these head games is atrocious. It's damaging. It's frustrating. It serves no purpose, yet it is a constant and automatic! 

If I could invite you into my head when this is happening you might call for a truck, that might take me away to a place where I would have supervision and maybe medication… It's ugly up in my head, ugly, very ugly… Nobody deserves that ugliness. How did it get there?

I think for years and years women have struggled with comparison!  Are our waists as small? Are our husbands as good? Are our kids as nice? Are our kids as athletic? Yard as nice? Car as nice? House as nice? Crafting as nice? Dog as well behaved? Parents as involved? I mean U-G-G!!

Those of you reading this, that somehow escaped this, should consider yourself lucky!! Nobody deserves this kind of torment that happens. It's damaging to our relationship with our husbands it's damaging to our relationship with our children and most importantly it's damaging to our relationship with God!

Ephesians 4:31–32 says, let all anger and wrath and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as Christ has forgiven you. 

We forget he also intended us to be nice to ourselves! We think if we are proud of ourselves we are being prideful... and you know pride comes before the fall!! 

So we've learned over time that if our hair falls into place nicely and we look at ourselves in the mirror and think I look good... we shouldn't, that's pride...
Or
if we handle a situation with our kids and just nail it with the lesson and the whole thing... stepping back and thinking good job... we shouldn't, that's pride...
Or
If we congratulate anything about anything we've done well and think a thought that resembles pride... well, we've just undone it somehow

Stooooooppppppp

Be nice to yourself God wants us to revel in His love and his peace... sometimes we just did a good job! Sometimes we should look at our hair and think daaaang! Sometimes we should look at our kids and think niiiice! Sometimes we should look at a job well done and think "job well done!" 

Lifting each other is important, lifting ourselves up is critical, if we do more of one we will do more of the other! We shouldn't be more comfortable in the times we didn't do well then the times we did!  Just sayin'